This book. Much like parenting is a work in progress.
If you are reading this I’m assuming you are a parent or you are expecting to become a parent. Congrats.
My name is Ken. My wife Missy and I have two children. Our oldest daughter is 5 our youngest daughter is 4. Now that we have over a half decade of parenting under our belts we have decided to share some of our thoughts on parenting. Most specifically coparenting.
First off be you.
Second, be there for your kid(s) in any and all ways shapes and forms.
Yes you’re going to do some things wrong.
You’ll learn a lot about you, your child, and anyone else in the house each and everyday.
Share as much of the duties, dooties, and duedee as you can.
Here are some of the things we’ve learned over the last 5+ years as parents. Probably worthy to note that I have over 40 years of early child hood experience and development. As well as 12 years as an elementary and middle school teacher.
I know it’s not sexy or trendy but sharing all the parenting tasks with you partner is number one doable and second common sense if you think about it. My wife and I are completely different in a lot of ways. She was the youngest of two from a very traditional family. I was the second of four siblings spread out over eleven years and two marriages. I was a live in baby sitter as a teenager while she had never watched a child until our neighbors asked us to watch their two young sons while they took their third child to a doctors appointment back in 2010. I have a degree in Elementary Education and taught for twelve years before becoming a parent. Missy, has always worked in an office setting since graduating with a finance degree.
You would think that would give me solid footing, it didn’t. Once your child arrives it is as if you are all learning together. It’s great. It’s exhausting. It’s fun. It’s maddening. Its parenting 101. It’s always a work in progress.
Bottles vs. Nips
Moms, if you know for sure that you want to breast feed please skip this chapter and don’t hold it against the dad for not waking up in the middle of the night for feedings.
If the milk isn’t in a bottle I can’t help. Our decision not to breast feed was probably the first and possibly the single greatest parenting decision Missy and I have ever made.
We are not against breast feeding we just think feeding is a connection a dad should share with their child and an easy way to allow the other parent to get some sleep.
Speaking of sleeping. Missy and I have always put our daughters to sleep in their crib. Once it was bad time it was crib, then toddler bed, and now twin time.
Your child needs their own space.
The best gift.
You’ll get love for it, You’ll get hate for it
You’ll get nothing if you don’t own your decisions and stick to your own parenting decisions.
Hard to kill
That’s as far as I’ve gotten so far. I figured anyone reading this website is
a) probably either you my love.
All I can say at this point is thank you, and I look forward to completing this with you at some point and as we continue working through this together as always.